The Self-Care Challenge

Hello Gorgeous!

When is the last time you did something that was just for you? When is the last time that you got paid, and you took YOURSELF to lunch, dinner, etc? Well, if you are as selfless and neglectful of You as I think you may be, this post is for you!!! :-D I am a firm believer in what I call Me-Time and Me-Dates. Yes, it is exactly what it sounds like. Children have playtime, married couples and those in relationships have date night, or "mommie and daddy time", but what does the single person have?

If you have not come up with an answer to this, it may be because you have gotten so wrapped up in your career, school, social life, relationship, childcare that you have lost track of the wo/man in the mirror. It is time for you to get back in touch with who that is. There is a reason that women are reporting in staggering numbers that feelings of dread and dismay are mainstays in their daily lives. And it is not ironic that many men are suffering from heart failure, and other stress related illnesses.

It is time that we got back to the days of old in which we carved out time to play! Playing is whatever you want it to be! You can sing in the shower, dance in the elevator, draw at your desk, make a playlist on your computer of your favorite songs, or even write a card to yourself for a rainy day! Do SOMETHING, NOW!!! I challenge anyone reading this to take the last 60 or so days that are left in 2009 and pick up an old pastime. You are worth it.

Be it playing an instrument (forget how good or bad you sound!), painting with watercolors, walking in your favorite park, or just sitting alone in your car where there is total quiet, I challenge you to Do.It. NOW!

Today IS the best day of your life,

Miss Andi K.

What Would You Do For Love?

Pinup Princess Vanessa Williams

So, I have been reading a lot lately about relationships as well as listening to various friends and acquaintances talk about them, and I am really surprised by some of the things that I have been hearing. Firstly, it seems that more and more people of Gen. Y (if that's what current 20- somethings are called) are willing to live alone all their lives rather than to have a long-term committed relationship and/or marriage.

Secondly, many young men seem to believe that a woman who is not open to having a casual sex relationship is "needy" and wants too much. When one young man said this to me, I had to know why he felt this way. His explanation was basically that he has watched his parents fight and argue for his entire life and he has therefore decided that marriage is not for him. He also went as far as to say that he doesn't believe in marriage, and the 'right' woman will accept this and be happy just to share his company. I was floored, dear reader!

What is going on, people? I know I cannot be the only one who is shocked, dismayed, and concerned that this is the future 'significant' other of someone out there (maybe YOU!!!). I suppose the worst part of it all is that it forced me to think about my own relationship experiences and what I want in the future, because as I mentioned a few posts ago, Miss Andi K. has reached her quarter century. :-D

Thirdly, I have listened to several other PP's who have expressed worry over the whether or not their current guy is actually marriage material, and whether or not he will ever pop THE Question. This brings me to wonder, how long does it take to know that someone is 'the ONE'? And better yet, should we buy into the hype that "50% of all marriages end in divorce", that leaves 50% that don't!!!

Is love a losing game?,


Miss Andi K.

Happy Hallow's Eve, Strange Fruit!

Hello Gorgeous!

As we near the close of the wonderful month of October, I want to remind you all to be safe and have a great time regardless of how you will spend your day!

I was recently reading another blog and a member commented that Hallow's Eve (or Halloween) is actually the most important holiday in the world because it is the one day in which people get to express who they TRULY are without judgement. :-D I thought this was actually very revealing.

So, with this in mind; what or who are you planning to be? I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours...!

Kiss, kiss...

Miss Andi K.

P.S. Amy Winehouse (hahaha)

Everybody Plays the Fool

There is an old school country song that claims that everyone is somebodies fool. I wonder if its an automatic requirement in a relationship. It seems that at some point one person is always chasing the other, trying to tame them into submission to love, trust, fidelity, or something.

As a young woman, this is SO frustrating! Sometimes it feels like love is an endless competition in which one person has to consistently outsmart and outwit the other one. If that is the case, it means I will be single forever, because, who the hell has time to sit and chase someone? I don't.

Another thing that I wonder is, why do some people feel the need to make themselves into a mystery, when being forthcoming and direct is so much more mature? Is it a symptom of narcissism and arrogance? Or does it just connote a lack of emotional intelligence? So many questions, and so few answers...

Miss Andi K.

Miss Andi K.

Hello Gorgeous,

I have missed you all (whoever may still be here). I had to take a sabbatical for personal reasons, and just want to share a few things that have happened in the process:

1. I've celebrated my 25th anniversary

2. I've relocated to a NEW palace

3. I've learned a lot

You may start to see changes here at PP, so I just want to inform you about the format changes that you may start to see. Firstly, the blog is now more of an online diary of sorts, I suppose. Since there are rarely comments on the posts, the posts will be fewer. I may post weekly, if at all. Secondly, since I have gotten little to no feedback on what you all want to read/discuss; I will just assume that the content thus far has been fine and post similar topics when I'm not journaling.

Kiss, kiss...

Miss Andi K.

Forgiveness

Is this really the heart of the matter?

The root of the happiness that I am after

Does it take away the pain of what is, and was, and might have been.

Does it erase all memories of us now, and then?

Does it stamp out hate and its intricacies?

Does it release me from you, and you from me?

Does it patch up the holes that 'love' has left behind.

And does it return all the promises, and moments, and opportunities that should have been mine?

Can it mend, and repair the shards that remain?

Can it guarantee that one day I'll be whole again?

Will it erase the hurts, and teach unlearned lessons?

And will it open a door that will lead to unforeseen blessings?

Of all the rewards, and reasons that I should-

I wonder if I would do it even if I could.

You talk of forgiveness as if its done so easily,

But how can I forgive you, when I can't forgive me?

Social Education: The Royal Treatment

Hello Gorgeous,

Being that we are over halfway through 2009, I thought I would introduce you to my practice of formulating 'semi-new year's' resolutions. This time, I personally resolved to give myself the Royal Treatment. What is this, you ask?

Well, for me it includes doing at least one of my favorite things everyday. Be it reading parts of a great book, writing poetry, playing with makeup, going for a long stroll, or hitting a bar with some friends, I make time for ME. The second part of the Royal Treatment consists of pampering myself.

For me this includes taking care of my hair, nails, skin, and body. I do this first and foremost for myself, and secondly to try to attract a Pinup Prince. ;-) The key to TRT is to take care of yourself, because you are royalty! Now, I don't want to hear any of this about not being able to afford this, because there are millions of ways to save money and/or take care of yourself for free.

So, dear reader, what do you do to give yourself the Royal Treatment.....?

Look good and feel good,

Miss Andi K.